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date: "2020-01-26T20:41:55.827Z"
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title: "應付不安: 偽裝的性別"
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<!-- # Managed Dysphoria -->

# 應付不安

<!-- Growing up in the closet, even when you don't know you're in the closet, becomes an existence built on top of coping mechanisms intended to alleviate dysphoria. The following are ways a closeted trans person may find to alleviate the dysphoria they experience in their day to day lives: -->

在櫃中成長，即使你不知道你在櫃中，也會變成一種建立在應對機制之上的存在，旨在減輕不安。以下是一個未出櫃的跨性別者可能會在日常生活中找到減輕他們所經歷的不安的方法：

<!-- - When a video game gives you the option of choosing your gender, you tend to choose differently than your assigned gender. This may be accompanied with excuses to defend that choice. "It defaulted to male and I didn't care." "I don't want to stare at a guy's butt for hours." -->

- 當遊戲讓你選擇性別時，你傾向於選擇與你指定性別不同的性別。這可能伴隨著一些藉口來為這個選擇辯護。「它預設是男性，我沒差。」「我不想盯著一個男的屁股看幾個小時。」

<!-- - A preference for literature and film with characters of your true gender, or with characters who break gender norms (_Mulan_, _Little Women_). -->

- 偏愛有你真實性別角色的文學和電影，或者有打破性別規範的角色的文學和電影（例如《花木蘭》、《小婦人》）。

<!-- - Pornographic outlets which satisfy strong desires or feel more relatable, such as a draw towards gay/lesbian porn, bridal kink, or transformation sequences. -->

- 能滿足強烈慾望或感覺更相關的色情內容，例如被男/女同色情片新娘癖好(bridal kink)或變身情節所吸引。

<!-- - Crossdressing or performing drag. -->

- 穿異性服裝或表演變裝。

<!-- - Finding excuses to cut hair short, or to grow it out. -->

- 找藉口剪短頭髮，或者留長頭髮。

<!-- - Shaving of body hair, or a refusal to shave hair you're expected to. -->

- 剃除體毛，或拒絕剃除你期待被剃除的毛髮。

<!-- - Wearing loose and baggy clothing that hides the shape of your body. -->

- 穿寬鬆的衣服來遮蓋你的體型。

<!-- - Avoiding social gatherings whenever possible, seeking isolation. -->

- 盡可能避免社交聚會，尋求獨處。

<!-- - Becoming intimately educated about some gender-associated topic, such as men's or women's clothing design. -->

- 熟悉某些與性別相關的話題，例如男裝或女裝設計。

<!-- - Obsessively working out (AFABs). -->

- 強迫性地健身（出生時指定性別為女性）。

<!-- - Helping cis partners to shop in order to live vicariously through their presentation. -->

- 幫助順性別伴侶逛街購物，以便透過他們的表現來間接體驗。

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<!-- Because so much abuse is handed down onto gender non-conforming children, many trans people grow up learning to hide their natural personalities out of sheer necessity. Many trans people speak about having a phase of life where they attempted to "buy-in" on their assigned gender, performing masculinity or femininity to extremes in order to try to "fix" themselves. This leads to repression tendencies which may even superficially appear toxic, but are simply the results of trying to hide every scrap of their true selves. -->

由於不符合性別規範的兒童會遭受如此多的虐待，許多跨性別者在成長過程中學會出於純粹的必要性而隱藏他們的天生個性。許多跨性別者談到他們人生中曾經歷過一個階段，試圖「接受」他們被指定的性別，極端地表現男性氣概或女性氣質，以試圖「修復」自己。這導致了壓抑傾向，甚至可能表面上看起來有毒，但這只是試圖隱藏他們真實自我的每一點點碎片的結果。

<!-- - Growing and meticulously grooming facial hair (the so-called "denial beard"). -->

- 留並精心修飾臉上的毛髮（所謂的「否認鬍鬚」）。

<!-- - Taking up makeup artistry in order to perfect a high femme look. -->

- 學習化妝技巧，以完善高度女性化的妝容。

<!-- - Presenting extremely masculine or hyper feminine. -->

- 表現得極端男性化或極端女性化。

<!-- - Avoiding any conversation about fashion for any gender. Dissociating whenever fashion conversations or activities occur. -->

- 避免任何關於任何性別的時尚話題。在任何時尚話題或活動出現時，都會發生解離 (dissociating)。

<!-- - Obsessively working out (AMABs). -->

- 強迫性地鍛鍊身體（出生時指定性別為男性）。

<!-- - Assuming a strongly stereotyped gender role in a relationship (e.g. the dutifully modest housewife). -->

- 在一段關係中扮演一種刻板的性別角色（例如盡職盡責、端莊的家庭主婦）。

<!-- - Marrying and having kids in anticipation that it will "fix" what's wrong with you. -->

- 結婚生子，期望它能「修復」你的問題。

<!-- - Buying in to ultra-conservative attitudes towards gender and sexuality. -->

- 接受對性別和性傾向的極端保守態度。

<!-- - Expressing homophobia and transphobia in self-defense to ward off suspicion. -->

- 出於自衛而表達恐同和跨性別恐懼症，以避免被懷疑。

<!-- - Aggressively-passive engagement in anything connected to one's true gender. -->

- 以消極攻擊的方式參與任何與自己真實性別相關的事情。


<!-- Finally, another very common coping mechanism is to find means of escape or mental engagement in order to forget your own feelings. -->

最後，另一個非常常見的應對機制是尋找逃避或精神寄託的方式，以忘記自己的感受。

<!-- - Intensely investing large amounts of time into hobbies. -->

- 將大量時間投入到興趣愛好中。

<!-- - Long hours spent at work. -->

- 長時間工作。

<!-- - Chain-binging movies, TV shows, or books. -->

- 狂看電影、電視節目或書籍。

<!-- - Spending all idle time playing video games or on social media. -->

- 將所有空閒時間都花在玩電子遊戲或社交媒體上。

<!-- - Obsessively cleaning one's living space. -->

- 強迫性地清潔自己的生活空間。

<!-- - Sleeping. Lots and lots of sleeping. -->

- 睡覺。大量的睡覺。